Dear Ezra and Lian,
Over the Christmas holidays, we slept Christmas Eve in Grandpa’s apartment. He spent a lot of that night awake and crying. He was crying because at the nursing home, Grandma didn’t remember that our names were Tim, Ezra and Lian. It took her 15 minutes to realize that we were her kids and grandkids. I told Grandpa most of the following story. It helped cheer him up and give him a purpose.
“1 As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. 2 His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” 3 Jesus answered, “Neither did this man sin, nor his parents; but, that the works of God might be revealed in him. 4 I must work the works of him who sent me, while it is day. The night is coming, when no one can work. 5 While I am in the world, I am the light of the world.” 6 When he had said this, he spat on the ground, made mud with the saliva, anointed the blind man’s eyes with the mud, 7 and said to him, “Go, wash in the pool of Siloam” (which means “Sent”). So he went away, washed, and came back seeing. 8 The neighbors therefore, and those who saw that he was blind before, said, “Isn’t this he who sat and begged?” 9 Others were saying, “It is he.” Still others were saying, “He looks like him.” He said, “I am he.” 10 They therefore were asking him, “How were your eyes opened?” 11 He answered, “A man called Jesus made mud, anointed my eyes, and said to me, ‘Go to the pool of Siloam, and wash.’ So I went away and washed, and I received sight.”
You are going to ask yourself why does Ezra have autism? What went wrong? Who is to blame? Those are the wrong types of questions based on the wrong types of assumptions. What is the purpose? In this, I pray that the power of God would be revealed. In our weakness, I pray that His strength be revealed. In our sadness, I pray that His joy be revealed. In our emptiness, I pray that the fullness of His sufficiency be revealed. Through the cracks in our flawed lives, I pray that His light would shine through. In our impossible situations, I pray that God’s miracles be revealed. This isn’t just Ezra’s disability, it is an opportunity for God. I’m excited to join Him in whatever He’s going to do. He’s already done so many amazing things in Ezra’s life.
Hopefully, one day you can apply the same thinking to the question “Why did my parents get divorced? In this situation, I pray that the power of God would be revealed. When faced with difficulty of any kind; In this, I pray that the power of God would be revealed.